oh. we do choose...

Choice choice choice choice choice.

I've said it over and over again, and I'll say it again. We always have a choice. ALWAYS.
If that didn't ring in LOUD and clear, here it goes again:

ALWAYS

We tend to forget many times, that we have a choice in everything we do. Past, present and future aside, in taking any steps, we are given a choice to follow.
The excuse, "but there wasn't any other way....", "I was too tempted...", "I wasn't given any other choice" is just plain weak.

Until the day your hands, legs, and body are tied to puppet strings, and is being controlled by a puppet master, please, PLEASE don't say, "I couldn't help myself".

I've made mistakes. Countless times.

I'm learning to not say I was forced into the circumstances. I made choices which I'm not proud of that led me to make that mistake. That won't be my last one.

BUT, as soon as I realize that I'm responsible for my mess, the sooner I work towards correcting it.

So please. I beg of you. Please don't blame the situation or surroundings you are in. Be responsible.

when choosing...

We all have a choice. We all have a part to play some way or another. However, we need to be willing first. Can we truly be used if we don't want to be used?

I believe everyone should be given a fair chance, and in that, a fair amount of help given and time. If one were to get more just because they did not want to budge in the first place, it's tough. Being merciful if one was not quick to adapt and needed some extra help, but is willing to go the extra mile just to improve, is a whole different story from one who doesn't want to be moved at all.

If there are two bulls in the field, given one is really strong, and has lots of potential to all the work in the field in half the time, versus another which wasn't as strong, but was very obedient, which would you pick? Especially when there is only a day to do the work, no one would half expect the farmer to soothe the bull and ease it into work. Rather than hope something could be done quickly, sure the most logical way out would be to pick the one that is easier to work with.

Sure. We can discuss about compassion, and that this kind of thinking lacks it, but coming back to the bull that has to work the field; if a dredge was attached to it, and it chose to go its own way, the whole field would be messed up.

If we are given important parts to play, and we choose not to follow, will the parts then come to succession into a bigger picture?

Obedience before sacrifice. The last will be the first. Pride to not yield will be opposed.

Will it not?

the polling goes marching on.....

That's right. Parliament has been dissolved, which means...

it's time to vote a new government. That's right people. Time to use your privilege as a citizen to make a difference in this country.

I'm not going to blog much about why you should do it, or convince you in the best 10 reasons on the importance of voting, but as the idiom goes,

"A little goes a long way."

Or the Malay idiom,

"Sikit-sikit, lama menjadi bukit."

(Little by little, a hill is formed eventually).


I believe that we indeed can make a difference, if we choose to be a difference.

Here are some stuff you do to read up on elections, or to check if you are eligible to vote this year. And finally,

"Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for you country"
John F. Kennedy

Vote wisely!

crossroads

What do you do when there seems like a dozen roadblocks, too many options and no clue as to where one should go?

At the cross roads.

Waiting.

Where do I go from here?

where have all the real men gone?

No, really. Without even the slightest bit of cynicism, where are they? No, I've not turned gay, but as a guy, who is looking for guy friends who can help walk in the many journeys of life, I can't find many (if at all any)!

I hang out with a group of guys. We DO stuff. We play boardgames. Mamak. Movies. Idle chat about certain things. But where have all the good men, who would lend a hand in the heart department. Or the dream department. Built each other up, hear each other out.

Where?

I'm not asking anyone to be soppy, or touchy feel-y (a definite NO!), but at least for Pete's sake, or in this case, for our sake, can we do something more building.

What happened the to the band of brothers? Not leaving anyone behind? Striving and marching together? Pulling each other from the mud pit, or watching each others backs?

Where?

Calling all real men out there. Your guy friend needs you. Really. Not just for a game of footie or cup of coffee.

I do hope that I can find a group of guy friends, who can form a strong sense of camaraderie.

COME ON GUYS!