Yes, it's like learning a new phrase. Only, I already know this one, I'm just using it more today.
I'm talking about certain things in particular, but for the first time, this will not be a rant. I just thought it might be interesting to discuss this particular issue about resovling certain issues or even to begin with, just discussing certain issues.
How do we put things delicate enough that we don't hurt someone's feelings, or not too badly that it leaves a sour taste in one's mouth after the conversation. Do we push for something we want or do we be so soft and non demanding about things, and get run over? Or do we say something and be firm about it and let our friendship go into pieces? Or will it. I don't know.
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i find with true friends, you can speak freely cause the ties that bind you are strong and flexible. any amount of pushing or sourness will barely leave a mark.
I think that if the truth will help all parties, even though it may leave a sour taste in the mouth, it still should be spoken and worked through. ;)
I find good packaging makes the sour taste go down easier... but one must always make sure that marketing doesn't become misleading or misrepresenting the truth... I find myself tempted to market that way too often.
sometimes it's not you, sometimes there are deeper issues at hand and you may be the one bringing them to the surface, and these issues must be brought to the surface in order for all parties to grow... but growing is not always painless.
khainu>unfortunately, it's hard to do, because in this case, i don't know these ppl as well as .... well. just not as well. hard to come across as straight as possible cause of fear of coming across as... harsh
the wongs (ezier la huh? ;p )
i agree with having to tell the truth. but sometimes, it's so hard to tell someone, that they are plain wrong. especially if you don't know them that well. they might not take it well. packaging is key, but too fluffy and it's not going to work either. anyhow. issue has been resloved... hopefully
That's a perfect phrase to describe what I think you must be feeling (or rather, what I would be feeling if I were in your position). Perhaps reasonable heads (who are not afraid to hurt feelings, and are more interested in saying the truth) could advocate on your behalf. Hope you are doing ok. Keep your chin up!
adding onto the wong's comments, I think it is equally important that the other person is somewhat "insightful" into him/herself. Meaning that he/she can have the capability to reflect on themselves. It's because if you need to be firm and say the truth, say it to someone that you think will not waste your time.
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